tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post5257814328886337683..comments2023-10-18T02:50:42.552+11:00Comments on * Maxabella loves...: Coconut coated curve ballsMaxabellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-50484336149091250432012-12-22T10:11:10.794+11:002012-12-22T10:11:10.794+11:00I do not parent a particularly anxious child, but ...I do not parent a particularly anxious child, but I am an anxious mother. I understand how he must be feeling because I struggle with this as well. It is not easy or fun and everyone telling me to "just calm down" never helped. I applaud you for turning to someone else and getting help instead of just doing this on your own.rhonda https://www.blogger.com/profile/16825186760881892669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-74820889203132435032012-12-14T23:01:32.517+11:002012-12-14T23:01:32.517+11:00Yes yes and YES. I hear you on all counts. We be...Yes yes and YES. I hear you on all counts. We began treatment with a psychologist for our 7yr old daughter earlier this year. Best thing we ever did. I remember feeling like such a failure that I couldn't understand her or know how to help her - and yet when my hubby and I first visited with the psychologist and explained our struggle I felt this massive weight lift off me. It's okay to share the burden. Somethings really are out of our league, and I believe anxiety and certain personality traits really require a team effort with some highly-trained people on your side! Hope there are some sunnier days ahead for your Max xoAmanda @ mammajoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03244315848123146854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-83516401506756997282012-12-14T22:46:55.968+11:002012-12-14T22:46:55.968+11:00Oh Bron, you darling girl. This mothering gig crac...Oh Bron, you darling girl. This mothering gig cracks your heart open, doesn't it? Thank goodness Maxi has you and your beautiful, overflowing heart to help him find his way. You can do it, Bron. I believe in you. J xJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-40186590359955302202012-12-10T11:04:15.550+11:002012-12-10T11:04:15.550+11:00I wouldn't describe my child as anxious. (not ...I wouldn't describe my child as anxious. (not all the time) but when we are in situations she can display it, like this weekend, in a room with all her class mates, wanting a piece of cake, too afraid to speak, too afraid to ask. I just don't understand, I can't get my head around it. I try and force but I've learn't now that that's not really the answer, and whilst I don't understand I need to accept. parenting is definitely a tough gig. I hope the supports help.Mrs Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17315306897011205854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-31700009778541118442012-12-09T23:50:22.949+11:002012-12-09T23:50:22.949+11:00I was a very anxious and sensitive child, and I pa...I was a very anxious and sensitive child, and I parent a very sensitive, and some times anxious child. It is hard. For her. For us. Some days are fine, some (not many) are so difficult I question why I had children. <br /><br />I became a much less anxious adult in my early 20's after 18 months of weekly therapy from a psychiatrist. He taught me coping skills and helped me change my thinking - in a positive way. I am very long sighted (my eye sight) and I was in my mind too. I worried myself sick about things that might happen in weeks or years to come. I worried myself sick about what other people thought of me. But I learnt how to change all of this, and I am honestly such a better, happier, much less anxious person for it. <br /><br />I know you can work your way through this. Parenting is HARD, but we are all in it together. Cat xoxCat from Raspberry Rainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15600066841446342922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-88170125422402627532012-12-08T11:07:26.422+11:002012-12-08T11:07:26.422+11:00Heart strings tugging. I miss your beautiful blog....Heart strings tugging. I miss your beautiful blog. <br />You are so right, this parenting thing can be hard and sometimes we need help/reinforcements. Village and all that. Maxi is so lucky to have such switched on and plugged in parents, I know he will be fine..amazingly fine. <br />Our Miss 7 can be quite anxious. She is such a sensitive fragile soul that needs something extra. I know sometimes I'm not the best dealing with it, but I also know we will find a way. xxxx hugs and more hugs xxxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09651116248452404269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-22260922528144188892012-12-07T12:49:36.434+11:002012-12-07T12:49:36.434+11:00I can relate too...
Sending you hugs and strength ...I can relate too...<br />Sending you hugs and strength and hope<br />xallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10009232448247160974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-50468852992472592392012-12-07T10:25:41.481+11:002012-12-07T10:25:41.481+11:00Not anxious, no -- but all of my kids have been &#...Not anxious, no -- but all of my kids have been 'oddballs' and haven't fitted in well at school.<br />I know the worry. I know the wanting to keep them safe. I know the relief when you finally get some help.<br />"Different' kids are always more special to me.Tonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16561240096806868742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-6509342647681758182012-12-07T10:20:53.691+11:002012-12-07T10:20:53.691+11:00I can so connect with this Bron and your little gu...I can so connect with this Bron and your little guy. My little guy is quirky and walks his own path in life - normally life is ticket-boo but every now and again, his differences rear their head and we teach him to cope and be cool, and (god i hate saying this) ummm, "blend" a little more. Because the sharks in the school yard feed off difference. We celebrate his quirks but not everyone else does, our depth of love for him means we have to help him not protect him. Still that doesn't stop the pain and my tears of indignance at times. It's a tough gig being a parent sometimes.Lisa Schofieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09098082575435441127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-46949468662397959272012-12-07T09:06:47.424+11:002012-12-07T09:06:47.424+11:00It's a hard one. I take things day by day but...It's a hard one. I take things day by day but it's not easy. At night the constant getting up has started again so I thought of a couple of techniques which seem do have helped. The first is to make sure we follow a routine exactly each night. I put on some classical music to help with the relaxing and I also have put a book and pencil by her beside table. I suggested that if there is something on her mind that she wants to talk about to write it down so we can talk about it in the light of day. Night time can be a tricky time to deal with problems. Each situation brings with it issues, pushing I find so hard and tiring but they can't grow if you don't. I hope in time Maxi finds things easier and all the work you are putting into giving him coping skills will all make for a brighter future. Take care Bron. xxCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11314373295390794669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-45432729333640663822012-12-06T23:07:02.465+11:002012-12-06T23:07:02.465+11:00Bron, thank goodness Maxi has the very parents he ...Bron, thank goodness Maxi has the very parents he needs. <br />We had a few years of on-the-edge anxiety, it's only in the last 12 months that Bell has really grown into her own confidence.<br />Help from school and other professionals has seen her start to look at challenges differently.<br />How much easier it would be if we could just keep them sheltered and fight all the battles for them, but I guess that would be no preparation for life.<br />As hard as it is, you are finding solutions, and that can only be a positive thing.<br />Stay strong and always remember that you're not alone xx<br /> Lisa@RandomActsOfZenhttp://www.randomactsofzen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-75789351701529445602012-12-06T22:44:42.656+11:002012-12-06T22:44:42.656+11:00Wow. It's so true isn't it? You think havi...Wow. It's so true isn't it? You think having a newborn is rough... but it's nothing compared to the complexity of the child. I can already see, that in many ways, parenting and growing up etc... only gets more difficult.<br />And I also understand how you feel about sometimes just wanting someone else to step in and help everyone to see the light. It's a mammoth job we're undertaking, we're just doing the best we know how. It's good to hear there is relief in sight for you and your family xoAll For Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13151973819133926868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-20312228265338184372012-12-06T21:56:34.751+11:002012-12-06T21:56:34.751+11:00We have a beautiful anxious boy here. I cried down...We have a beautiful anxious boy here. I cried down the phone for help when he was 3 and am so glad we did. We found the most wonderful child psychologist who gave us ( rather than him) some great coping skills that we were able to pass on. I will be forever grateful that I made that phone call and didn't wait for him to " grow out of it". My heart swells with pride each time I see him overcome an obstacle and push himself forward. WIth the anxiety often comes a higher level of sensitivity and I think the world needs more of that. Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10295957114091546085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-19940948518363979892012-12-06T21:32:20.168+11:002012-12-06T21:32:20.168+11:00My eldest is anxious and it was such a relief to c...My eldest is anxious and it was such a relief to call in reinforcements. One of the best things was that she taught me the tools to manage my daughter and gave me back some confidence in my parenting skills. Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05067264634969563291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-89594876496640741132012-12-06T21:02:23.693+11:002012-12-06T21:02:23.693+11:00Your beautiful boy makes me think a lot of my own....Your beautiful boy makes me think a lot of my own. <br />I think as a mum you just know that sensitive doesn't even begin to cover it and you want so much to toughen them up, to help them build a callous to it, but it just doesn't seem to work does it? No matter how hard we push, even when our instincts say to pull. <br /><br />Hoping you guys get the support that you need. Miss Pinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04339773113889860348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-6662759644347240492012-12-06T20:54:01.818+11:002012-12-06T20:54:01.818+11:00I love how you've written this Bron.
My boy i...I love how you've written this Bron. <br />My boy is an anxious one too (he also didn't / doesn't sleep well...) He's just started kindy here and my heart was sooo hurting with worry for him. He was doing so so well, and is enjoying it, but now some girl has started pushing him around - like, every single day, she pushes him over, and he cries, and it's all he talks about when we get home. I've talked to ALL the teachers about it, but they must surely think I am over-reacting because he is a big boy, being pushed by a little tiny girl. He will never push her back. He wakes up talking about whether Magali will push him at school today! I fear it's going to ruin his whole education! (ok, drama queen, maybe) Anyway, I hope you and your Maxi work out some good mechanisms for coping and thank you for sharing. Sorry this comment is all over the place. Like you said - a piece of my heart is down the road right now. xxxRhi@FlourChildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08970799811800725500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-29995153334397386952012-12-06T20:34:57.517+11:002012-12-06T20:34:57.517+11:00Oh Lord, I can relate to this. Good on you for cal...Oh Lord, I can relate to this. Good on you for calling in the reinforcements, everything helps. From reading what you write here Bron you sound like an amazing mum, and those children are lucky to have you. Good luck with it all and especially these last few weeks of term. From my end am seeing lots of unsettled behaviour around the traps, (some of it mine!!)Take good care xkellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05280632930386464253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-41181157896842841822012-12-06T19:30:16.600+11:002012-12-06T19:30:16.600+11:00:-(:-(MultipleMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00621170366257326241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-16547222544723219372012-12-06T16:59:11.942+11:002012-12-06T16:59:11.942+11:00I see a lot of pushing when I'd rather pull hi...I see a lot of pushing when I'd rather pull him under my wing in my future, Bron, and it is very hard. My Mr Anxious starts school next year. Best wishes xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-55227970047075485502012-12-06T16:51:03.292+11:002012-12-06T16:51:03.292+11:00Yep. We're working with the reinforcements too...Yep. We're working with the reinforcements too. Biologically I've passed on the anxious gene, but I'd like the lessons of managing that gene learnt now while the pathways are still being built so that living with this pesty gene is an easier journey for my child.Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05131518522010494497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-88167093134820366282012-12-06T16:10:45.301+11:002012-12-06T16:10:45.301+11:00I have friends who are dealing with things like th...I have friends who are dealing with things like this at the moment, trying their best to navigate their way through it and do what's right for their little girl. I applaud you for seeking help and doing the best you possibly can. x<br />Megan Blandfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12932508388869573748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-14822239729258218622012-12-06T16:03:52.064+11:002012-12-06T16:03:52.064+11:00I don't parent an anxious child but I have bee...I don't parent an anxious child but I have been both anxious child and anxious adult. Master Maxi is very lucky to have parents who are ... aware. That's a really big deal B :)Kelly Exeterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00016952176301597208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-60533644530798633952012-12-06T16:01:42.196+11:002012-12-06T16:01:42.196+11:00I don't have this particular thing going on wi...I don't have this particular thing going on with mine..but have learned that there are pretty much no 'every child's' out there. The eldest was a driven child..very self driven..not me..in fact not like me really either...so he didn't fit in particularly. The second..a girl..very shyly started school..but very individual..had a couple of good friends..loyal to a 't'..but definitely not an 'every child'...walked to her own standard. No 3...a rebel...still that way..also walks to his own beat...definitely no 'every child'. Next boy...a bit autistic..I'm happy he found a job he likes in a paint shop...that will probably be forever. Mr No. 5...married at 21 to an older lady..creative..started uni as a mature age student..definitely never was an 'every child'...he got told he should smoke as many cigarettes as he wanted to by a high school counsellor to relieve any stress he may have...he took her very literally for a while. I don't have 'normal' kids...but you know what...they're not doing half badly now they're older. I am thinking that..with all your love..your boy will make it..and not badly either!Naturally Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15999271127735997770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-9305462134278853192012-12-06T15:54:50.585+11:002012-12-06T15:54:50.585+11:00I don't think you are rambling, in fact this i...I don't think you are rambling, in fact this is one of these post I will remember, Love the way you write Bron! Love those 2 little words.... 'This child',<br />All the best, virtual hugs,<br />Maureen xDaydream Livinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14092794695138108197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7550579703997672879.post-44935803874289428502012-12-06T15:14:54.462+11:002012-12-06T15:14:54.462+11:00Yes and I'd rather pick them up and go some pl...Yes and I'd rather pick them up and go some place where the world can be entirely of our own making.<br />hugs, oxHannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08819262159652755479noreply@blogger.com